Week 9 - Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
WEDNESDAY GROUP RECORDING: https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/xctVNezS3WBIepWTxl7WS7YlD6joeaa82iZI_vUOmU7w2cjcftGFuVSuA0f7qplk?startTime=1596657950000
FRIDAY GROUP RECORDING:
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
- RSD is on a spectrum
- It is not exclusive to ADHD
- Everyone with ADHD does not experience RSD
- However, it is very common within ADHD population
“Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is extreme emotional sensitivity and pain triggered by the perception that a person has been rejected or criticized by important people in their life. It may also be triggered by a sense of falling short—failing to meet their own high standards or others’ expectations.” - William Dodson, Attitude Mag
Some Characteristics (source: Psychology Today)
- High sensitivity about the possibility of rejection
- Overly high standards for yourself
- Feeling easily triggered toward guilt or shame
- Isolating yourself in a preemptive strike not to be rejected
- Aggressive or rageful behavior toward those who have been perceived to have slighted you
- Frequently feeling an uncomfortable physical reaction due to "not fitting in" or being misunderstood
- Self-esteem that is entirely dependent on what others think, and rises and falls accordingly
- Frequent and intense ruminating after an interaction about how you did or said something wrong
The emotional response can be
(1) internalized or;
- Feels like an emotional rollercoaster
- “It can imitate a full, major mood disorder complete with suicidal ideation. The sudden change from feeling perfectly fine to feeling intensely sad that results from RSD is often misdiagnosed as rapid cycling mood disorder.”
- Rage and outbursts at the people responsible for causing the pain.
- 50% of people who are assigned court mandated anger-management treatment have previously unrecognized ADHD
Coping with RSD usually takes two forms:
- People pleasing / hyper vigilance / over achieving
- No longer trying
- Many options, depending on severity - seek professional support if this feels debilitating for you.
- Increase awareness.
- Answer the following questions:
- Does RSD impact you?
- If so, what characteristics most impact you?
- Do you internalize or externalize your emotional response, or both?
- How do you cope? Type 1 or 2 or a combo? (see coping w/ RSD above)
- Notice throughout the week (and beyond) where this may show up in your life and observe your emotional reactions with compassion.